I’m sure you’ve already met this negative, draining person who cares only about themselves and to reach their goals they’ll use all sorts of manipulation tactics to take advantage of you. They suck the happiness and positive energy out of you. They’re frustrating, exhausting, and damaging. They’re toxic.
Toxic people are self-absorbed and they’ll keep you around as long as you’re useful to them. They expect you to give them your attention, respect, sympathy, and support while they don’t give you anything in return. You can be surrounded by a toxic people even now and not be aware of it. Relationships, romantic or otherwise, with such a person, can have a detrimental effect on your mental and emotional health. That’s why you need to be able to recognize the signs that you’re dealing with a toxic person.
These are the 8 traits the most toxic people have in common:
1. They don’t support you.
The only person toxic people care about is themselves. They never show interest in or respect for the things that matter to you. If you’re feeling down in the dumps or going through a rough time, they’ll never be there to support you. Moreover, they never bother to praise you for your personal and professional achievements because this removes them from the center of attention.
2. They are highly manipulative.
A toxic person will stop at nothing to accomplish their goals. They’ll play with your mind and emotions in wicked ways, discover and then use your insecurities and failures to get the things they want from you. If you don’t pay close attention to their behavior, they can easily trick you into believing that they want the best for you and that you should be grateful for having them in your life.
3. They negatively criticize your every move.
Although they may appear highly confident and independent, in fact, these difficult people have many insecurities and low self-esteem. Their inability to accept and deal with failure makes them downplay the importance of your achievements and criticize you for the things you have and haven’t done. They can go so far to the point where they start making sarcastic and/or vile comments about you, your partner, family and friends. Don’t let this discourage you. They’ll do anything to make them appear smarter and more important than you.
4. They never apologize.
Never expect someone whose behavior is toxic to apologize to you because in their view it’s never their fault. They’ll twist the story and shift the blame onto you. They’ll lie to you and unintentionally and deliberately hurt you (the latter is more common), but they’ll never admit it or feel remorse and say “I’m sorry.” Moreover, to get your attention and sympathy they won’t hesitate to play the victim role.
5. They are inconsistent.
Toxic people change their behavior so often that it’s difficult for you to know which version of them you’re seeing at a given time. They can be inconsiderate, hostile, and difficult to handle one moment and loving and kind the next if they want to get something from you. They can change their attitudes and mood from optimistic to bad before you blink and they’ll never tell you the real reasons for that.
6. They project their feelings onto you.
They don’t want to take responsibility for their feelings and actions. For example, they can be angry about something and if you try to point that out to them, they’ll say that you’re the one who feels angry or even suggest that you’re mad at them without any reason.
7. They often make you prove yourself to them.
A toxic person believes that they’re your best option. They’ll expect from you to always choose them over anyone and anything else. They won’t be ashamed to tell you to distance yourself or break off any relationship with people who are important to you. It’s always them or nobody else.
8. They put you in a defensive position.
They want to look smarter and more important than you. To achieve that they will point out your mistakes, including the grammar ones while you talk, and make you feel responsible for anything bad that happens. They’ll make you defend yourself so as to feel and show you that it’s them who’s in control of the situation and you.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.