I’m sure you often find yourself in a situation where more thoughts occupy your mind, but overthinkers have them on a daily basis. Whether it’s thinking about where you might be at a given time or why you aren’t responding to their messages, they always wonder if things mean more.
Overthinking can often be helpful, but there are times when it’s exhausting, overwhelming, and even hurtful. Overthinkers always keep their mind busy. Unfortunately, many people can’t understand why overthinkers behave the way they do. Yet, just because they overanalyze things, it doesn’t mean they’re complicated or difficult to deal with. They’re just to careful not to misjudge anyone and let important things slip through their fingers. That’s why they deserve to be loved and respected even more.
So, if you’re in love with an overthinker, know that he/she is a keeper. Don’t let yourself lose them by failing to understand them.
Following are 8 things you should never do when you love an overthinker:
1. Don’t get frustrated at them.
It’s not like it’s their choice to overanalyze things every single day. This is something they can’t control and it’s a part of who they are. Never allow yourself to get frustrated or mad at them as this will deeply hurt their feelings. They overthink, but they also know when they’ve made a mistake and try not to repeat it. So, instead of getting angry, try to understand how they feel and never do anything that could make them doubt you.
2. Don’t send them mixed signals.
When they get mixed signals from you, they only get more confused. If they can’t tell for sure what your words and actions mean, they rack their brain trying to find out what you mean. This can be overwhelming for them, but they won’t stop interpreting your signals until they find out what your intentions are.
3. Don’t avoid answering their questions.
When they ask you questions, even about the most unimportant things, make sure you honestly answer them. If they notice that you’re evading their questions, they’ll start suspecting that you might be doing something behind their back and hiding things from them. So, if you don’t want to get both of you in an uncomfortable situation, tell them everything they deserve to know. They prefer to know the truth, no matter how harsh and painful it can be.
4. Don’t take too long to text them back.
I know that texting messages is the last thing you have time for when you’re up to your eyes in work or busy doing something else. But, it’s something that will save both of you from unnecessary stress and worries. So, make sure you answer them whenever you have a chance- even if to tell them that you won’t be able to come home immediately or that you have too much work.
5. Don’t keep secrets.
Everyone deserves to have privacy. They don’t expect you to give them your Facebook password or a copy of your phone contacts. But if they sense that you’re trying to hide something from them and behaving in a suspicious way, they’ll create thousands of scenarios in their head. They’ll start wondering if you cheat them or seeing somebody else.
6. Don’t come home late without warning.
It’s not like they expect you to inform them about your whereabouts, but if you know you’re going to be late, call to tell them that. Don’t keep them waiting by the phone while racking their brain worrying that something bad might have happened to you or that you’re with someone else, cheating on them.
7. Don’t judge them.
Don’t overact when they start asking you questions and overanalyzing stuff. Don’t make them feel like they’re overemotional or not normal. I’ve already said they don’t overthink with the purpose of hurting you. If you truly love and respect them, you’ll accept them just the way they are, without judging or trying to change them.
8. Don’t avoid talking about your past and future.
Overthinkers always think about things that happened in the past and about those that will happen in the future. Don’t get frustrated when they start asking you questions about something you did or happened to you when you were a kid. You’re the person they love and they want to know everything about you.
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Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.
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